Between the Lines

So I got two comments in one day about how I haven't had a new blog in a while. Honestly, I was thinking no one was reading, but who knew. So I've had this one in my notebook for about a week now but never got around to typing it up (we all know who to blame for that one..lol). So here it is:

Between the Lines

"You're so vain, you probably think this song is about you."

Does that lyric bother anybody else? I mean, Carly is talking to a vain person telling him she is not talking about him. Does anyone else see the catch 22?

days, I got in trouble with my excessive I've been thinking a lot about "reading between the lines." One time, back in my pre-facebookMyspace blogs. This kid I knew read the poems I posted and assumed/believed they were about him. He didn't ask me, he just decided I was still in love with him and he cut off contact with me. If he had taken a college level literature analysis class he would have learned that the writer and the speaker of a poem are not always the same. I know what you are thinking: "so were the poems about him?" They were a complex mix of emotions put into the only format that work, poetry. It would be ridiculous to say that the poems were about him, but I will say feelings he evoked from me did add to the mood and tone of the poems. But my friend saw what he wanted and stubbornly believed his interpretation was the only one that mattered.

So who's to blame? As easy as it would be to blame him, I think he problem is more broad.

He didn't believe me when I told him the truth: that I no longer had feelings for him. He didn't believe me because people rarely tell the truth anymore. People are not straight forward. Instead, they force us to read into their every word, hunting for subtle hints.

Don't get me wrong, sometimes the search for little meanings behind someones phrases can be a fun challenge; a mystery that makes life interesting. But overall, I think it just causes problems.

For example, my last boyfriend broke up with me because I was very up front with my feelings towards people. Even now, 3 months later, he is still being cryptic and inconsistent with his words.

So why does it have to be like this? I'm not saying you have to go up to your crush and say "I love you and worship you and I want to sleep with you every night." Obviously that's a little too blunt and I know most people are too shy for that. But, at the same time, if someone asks you a question, be honest instead of giving a political, cryptic answer. And on that same accord, you have to trust that what people tell you is the truth or else we'll never get anywhere.

Oh, and just to clarify, this blog is about you. You, yes you, no, not you, you over there.