Going along with my last blog, I suppose this one is kind of about hypocrisy. In actuality, I think it is a case of lying. Not purposeful, mean spirited lying. Subconscious, "kidding yourself" kind of lying.

Let me start with the men. Men spend their lives ogling models in magazines. They are turned on by the rail thin ladies in print ads and movies. And yet, anytime their out on a date, they bitch about how the girl only orders a salad. Talk about unrealistic standards. They want us to be super skinny AND eat heartily like them. When girls mention Weight Watchers, Adkins, or any other diet, men grimace and act like they are being ridiculous. But when we can't fit into that size -1 jeans, we know they are glancing at that skinny girl across the room.

But guys are not the only ones with conflicting standards. Oh yes, we women do it, too. I did some research online as to the top traits women said they looked for in a man. the 3 that were most popular were intelligence, sense of humor, and sensitivity. Perhaps this is a case of social desirability bias. I mean, honestly, is this really what women are looking for or is it just what they this they are supposed to say?

It goes back to the saying "nice guys finish last." Girls say they want nice, sweet, sensitive men, but yet they always go for bad boys. Look at Hollywood movies; it often works out that way.

Han Solo: You like me because I'm a scoundrel. There aren't enough scoundrels in your life.
Princess Leia: I happen to like nice men.
Han Solo: I'm a nice man.

We all know Princess Leia fell for Han Solo because he was hansom, charismatic, and a cocky bad boy. Ok, so yeah, I just pulled out a Star Wars reference to prove my point, so what. You know it's true.

Men like thin girls; women like assholes. Can't we just admit this to the world and stop with all the bull shit. I mean who doesn't want a Han Solo or a Gisele Bundchen in their lives. I know I want both! But then again, this is not a personal ad.

Food for thought.